My girl's way to University

During the end of last year, my girl said to me that Germany will be the last choice for her university programm. She still straight on her passion, bussiness school program, cause she wanted so much to work at multi national company. She was not interest for local company, that's why she want to study on international bussiness. I gave her change to go to IBS (ITB) but she choose KKI Manajemen at UI. Simple reason that she didn't want to live at Bandung. Se wasn't intereting to stay and study there. For preparation, she take Social Course beside Science Course.

Beginning this year she asked again, did she can took another private university beside UI, she became so sure about alumny from UI. On her opinion, not ready for bussiness world and haven't good network. Some of her friend tried at Prasetya Mulya, she asked promission to get test there but I ignore it cause not worth it enough than UI. She tried to asked for another University like Trisakti, Atmajaya, IIBI etc, but still I refused it, cause that's not enough for her dream.

I still asked her to consider IBS (ITB), cause many cases I seen enough proof of the 'product'. Like Dea, her bestfriend, right now she had part time work at finland after finish her academic curriculum at IBS (ITB) for 2 years. She spend her graduate cause she had enough time (she still 19th years old). Another case was Wahyu, a son of Fasli Jalal, he more elder than Dea, he already had a extend master programm after 3 years finish from IBS (ITB). They all now work at MNC as recomended from ITB alumny.

With her passion like Dea or Wahyu, but didn't want to study at IBS (ITB) cause at Bandung, I must find another alternatife who had the same result with ITB. I offer Binus International to my girl, she refuse it. She said that Binus just had a very good facility. So where else I have offering her?

Oppurtunely, January 25th I had wedding invitation at PTIK and in the same time at JCC have university exibition. They had public and private university to offer every student who came there, including UI, Trisakti, Atmajaya, Prasmul, Binus etc. After my invitation event over, I took my girl to see that exhibition and I told to her to find information as much as she want. I just follow her walk. In my observation there, based on pro active student who offering their university, I choose 3 university there, Binus, ESQ and SGU. But I still quiet, waiting my girl told me about her searching there. But she told me something, that she disapointed cause UI didn't serve well as another. She had difficult tie to get information from UI stand, cause their student just know their own major, not another major. For KKI, there's no student serve the information. 

After we're out from the arena, I took her lunch and asked her opinion about that exhibition. I asked her, Did she had a satisfied information from the stands? She answered that only had from Trisakti, Binus and ESQ, nt else. Than I asked again, who serve you better for the question you asked? For Trisakti, the lecturer gave her wide information, at Binus, all the informan was a student and I had the answer for all her question. Than I continued my question, which one do you choose for get admission form, she still said Trisakti and Binus. Trisakti she already knew all information she need, but at Binus, the schoolarship it will be the interesting one.

I think more wiser to direct my girl to think about her dream to work at MNC and have aa very good and wide network, if she want to reach all her dream, which university who will gave her opportunity to get it? Just see their 'product' at the exhibition.She explain that Binus had a good track, cause their plan to get consumen to their stand with strategy and manage very well. The information could she get from any of them, they had a very wide knoledge of their university, so they can 'sell' it. Very different with Trisakti, the lecturer explain all the programm, their student just sit and smile. At ESQ had a pro-active student, but their university had run a year and not get accreditation yet.She beg me to get my promission for Binus admission and I said if you get schoolarships you can get it. 

February 9th, my girl have test at Binus, and I get brunch invitation with executive dean to explain all programm. My girl had to get TPA, Toefl and interview test, a full day. Mostly, their program similar with IBS-ITB. For International Bussiness, my girl have to get sandwich programm 3+1 years. She still dream to o to germany and take double degree at CBS (Cologne Bussiness School). 

Yesterday we had a result test, and my girl passed + 50% schoollarships. Looks like she get a way to go there. I asked again to her, did she still want to get SBMPTN for KKI UI? She anwered, if she just can go with Binus only. So, I had to faced that my girl already choice her way life and I must support her.

May Allah give a strange to support all she need for her dream.

BEAUTY M3

Early February, I had invitation for my moms birthday ... including her books launch too. Cause the venue in 5 stars hotel and its looks like i had no style for very long time .. this moment inspired me to make different m3.  I open my make make up case and I need some new things to buy and make complete them. My girl suggestion goes to something light to ware and valueable.

Start with based and some decorative supplies, I tried the new one from Body shop. Not sticky and very easy to apply on my skin.

I choose more light colour for make my face bright and fresh. Even I had a lot of colour on may beautycase, looks like natural one's more comfortable to choose this time. The important thing's before using all of this, we must tried. This session ussually made me want to escape, but not this time .. so inspired me to use it. Strange.

A lot of colour and product inside this black box. But I must tried if I dont want failure tomorow. So, I practice some for my eyes and my lips, before that I had to make sure to apply my based materials.

Looks .. this eyes I tried with pink color for natural one. But I made black liner to defined my eyes. Gived a tail on outside corner .. make it straight.

I done with my eyes, and I tried to for my lips. I choose pink colour. So baby pink. Looks like very natural colour. I got my eyes but not my lips. Thanks GOD I tried this session before. Eliminate my failure before thats time.

I knew that every women want to make "faces" perfect in time ... but the tried session, for me, need to passion it first. So at my moms venue I change it ... this one definitely made me confident.

Different Colour but my choose never be wrong.

Happy Birthday 64'th moms .. and gratefull for you, may Allah bless both of you.

 Sultan hotel, February 4th 2014

‘Seorang Sahabat’

Seorg professor berdiri di depan kelas filsafat. Saat kelas dimulai, dia mengambil toples kosong & mengisi dgn bola2 golf. Kemudian ia bertanya kpd murid2nya, apakah stoples sdh penuh...... ? Mereka setuju !!!!

Kemudian dia menuangkan batu koral ke dlm stoples, mengguncang dgn ringan. Batu2 koralpun mengisi tempat yg kosong di antara bola2 golf. Kemudian dia bertanya kpd murid2nya, apakah stoples sdh penuh ? Mereka setuju !!!

Selanjutnya dia menabur pasir ke dlm stoples ... Tentu saja pasir menutupi semuanya. Profesor sekali lagi bertanya apakah toples sdh penuh..? Murid , "Yes"...!!

Kemudian dia menuangkan dua cangkir kopi ke dlm stoples, & secara efektif mengisi ruangan kosong di antara pasir. Para murid tertawa....

"Sekarang.. saya ingin kalian memahami bahwa stoples ini mewakili kehidupanmu."

"Bola2 golf adalah hal yg penting; Tuhan, keluarga, anak2 & kesehatan.

"Jika yg lain hilang & hanya tinggal mrk, maka hidupmu msh ttp penuh makna."

"Batu2 koral adalah hal2 lain, spt pekerjaanmu, rumah & mobil."

"Pasir adalah hal2 yg sepele. Jika kalian pertama kali memasukkan pasir ke dlm stoples, maka tdk akan tersisa ruangan utk batu2 koral ataupun utk bola2 golf.

“Hal yg sama akan terjadi dlm hidupmu. Jika kalian menghabiskan energi utk hal2 yg sepele, kalian tdk akan mempunyai ruang utk hal2 yg penting buat kalian."

"Jadi Beri perhatian utk hal2 yg penting utk kebahagiaanmu. Bermainlah, berbincanglah, dgn anak2mu. Luangkan waktu utk check up kesehatan. Ajak pasanganmu utk keluar makan malam. Berikan perhatian terlebih dahulu kpd bola2 golf. Hal2 yg benar2 penting. Atur prioritasmu.”

“Baru yg terakhir, urus pasirnya."

Salah satu murid mengangkat tangan dan bertanya, "Kalau kopi mewakili apa Prof ?"

Profesor tersenyum, "Saya senang kamu bertanya. Itu utk menunjukkan kpd kalian, sekalipun hidupmu tampak sdh sgt penuh, tetap selalu tersedia tempat utk secangkir kopi bersama  ‘seorang sahabat'.”

Qiu Jin Poetry

Autumn wind, autumn rain — they make one die of sorrow.

Qiu Jin Asking

forthright. When she happened to meet benighted ones, she would confront them head-on, leaving little room for compromise. People often held this against her. Some even compared her to Sophia [Perekovskaya] and Madame Roland. She would answer [to such appellations] without much thought.
(Quoted in Hu Ying, “Writing Qiu Jin’s Life: Wu Zhiying and Her Family Learning,” Late Imperial China, December 2004)

Qiu Jin Voice

We women, who have had our feet bound from early childhood, have suffered untold pain and misery, for which our parents showed no pity. Under this treatment our faces grew pinched and thin, and our muscles and bones were cramped and distorted. The consequence is that our bodies are weak and incapable of vigorous activity, and in everything we do we are obliged to lean on others.

Being thus necessarily dependent on external aid, we find ourselves, after marriage, subjected to the domination of men, just as though we were their household slaves. All our energies are confined to the home, where we are occupied in cutting out clothes, cooking and preparing food, making tea and boiling rice, sprinkling and sweeping, waiting on our husbands, and handing them basin and towel.

In any important business we are prevented from taking the least part. Should a guest arrive, we are obliged to make ourselves scarce and hide in our private apartments. We are not allowed to inquire deeply into any subject, and should we venture to speak at any length in reply to some argument, we are told that our sex is volatile and shallow.

My sisters, do you know where the fault lies that has brought us to this pass? It is all due to women’s lack of energy and spirit. We ourselves drew back in the first instance, and by-and-by that came to be regarded as an immutable rule of conduct.

Sisters, let us today investigate the causes which have led to this want of spirit and energy among women. May it not be because we insist on binding up our girls’ feet at an early age, speaking of their “three-inch golden lilies” and their “captivating little steps”? May it not be, I say, that this process of foot-binding is what has sapped and destroyed all our energy and spirit?

Today my blood is up, and I want to stir your blood as well, my sisters, and rouse you to a sense of your degradation. All women should, in the first place, refuse to adorn themselves with paint and powder, or trick themselves out in seductive guise, realizing that every human being has his own natural countenance given to him by God … In bringing forward this question of unbound feet, my sisters, I want you to realize that the result of having feet of the natural size will be to abolish the evils attendant on injured bones and muscles and an enfeebled constitution — surely a cause for unbounded rejoicing. …

If one day we succeed in wiping out this horrible blot on our civilization, our bodies will begin to grow stronger, and the steps we take in walking will become a pleasure instead of a pain. Having thus regained their natural energy, the whole sex will progress without difficulty, and an endless store of happiness will be built up for thousands of generations of women yet unborn.

But if you shrink from this reform, and wish to retain the pretty sight of small feet beneath your petticoats, you will remain imprisoned to the end of the chapter in the seclusion of your inner apartments, quite devoid of any strength of character, and it will be impossible to manifest the native brilliancy of the female sex. … Let there be thorough enlightenment on the subject of foot-binding, and progress in the matter of equal rights for men and women will surely follow.

Qiu Jin in Tokyo, 1904

We sisters must learn to put aside everything we have preoccupied ourselves with before and focus on what we must do for our future — as if our former selves are dead and we have returned to this world in other forms of humanity.

TROUGH THE RAIN

When you get caught in the rain, With nowhere to run, When you’re distraught, And in pain without anyone, When we keep crying out, To be safe, But nobody comes, And you feel so far away, That you just can't find your way home, you can get there alone, it's okay, What you say is
I can make it through the rain, I can stand up once again, On my own and I know, That I’m strong enough to mend, And every time I feel afraid, I hold tighter to my faith, And I live one more day, And I make it through the rain
And if you keep falling down, Don’t you dare give in, You will arise safe and sound, So keep pressing on steadfastly, And you’ll find what you need to prevail, What you say is
I can make it through the rain, I can stand up once again, On my own and I know, That I’m strong enough to mend, And every time I feel afraid, I hold tighter to my faith, And I live one more day, And I make it through the rain
And when the wind blows, As shadows grow close, Don’t be afraid, There’s nothing you can’t face, And should they tell you, You’ll never pull through, Don’t hesitate, Stand tall and say I
I can make it through the rain, I can stand up once again, On my own and I know, That I’m strong enough to mend, And every time I feel afraid, I hold tighter to my faith, And I live one more day, And I'll make it through the rain
I can make it through the rain, And stand up once again, And I live one more day, and I, I can make it through the rain, Oh yes, you can, You’re gonna make it through the rain.

Mariah Carey "Charm Bracelet" Album

GREAT SUPPORT

Rely on your good energy to give you solid footing and a sense of direction today. When you have faith in yourself, you can do anything you set your mind to. Are you unsure about a new person you're being forced to work with? Stay charming and engaging, and it won't take any time at all to get to know them better. There is no reason to be intimidated by them! Now is the time to reach out and connect with other people, because they need to see what you are capable of!